The article "Why Did Kermit Fall for Miss Piggy?" talks about attraction, it was written by Adam Eason.
Take a look at Miss Piggy from the muppets. She was always raelly outgoing and confident, but more importantly she had amazing self-esteem. She thought and firmly believed that she was stunningly beautiful and she dislpayed it in a really dramatic way. Everynoe fell for it, everyone found her to be glamourous. What's more, Kermit the frog even went and fell in love with her!
But let's look at the truth of the matter - she was a pig!
Now she was no curvaceous Jessica Rabbit from the film "Who framed Roger Rabbit" who was a text book stunner!
Miss Piggy certainly did not have the qualities of your typical super-model, I would even put my neck on the line and say that she was a bit chunky.
Developing self-esteem and oozing confidence can and does distinctly increase your ability to be irresistably attractive.
It can and really often does create an illusion or aura of value, worth and desirability.
Why do we find a person with high self-esteem to be attractive?
What is it about them that draws our attention and admiration?
Is it the mystique? Is it an aura? That certain "je ne sais quoi?"
Look at what is happening here; a person who exhibits strong self-esteem is telling the world they vlaue themselves. After all, the meaning of "self-esteem" is the etseem (value) of the self. It is the estimation of worth that you are giving to yuorself.
So when a person recognises their own self-worth and exhibits that to the rest of us, we start to guess that they know somehting that we don't!
In other words, they guess they are special and have value.
Likewise when somebody shows the world that they have low self-esteem, we tend to bleieve and guess that if they do not guess really highly of themselves, then why should we be impressed or respectful of them?
We certainly don't usually allow ourselves to be dazzled by them.
In both cases, we simply go along with the estimation that what the preson has signaled to us is valid. We tend to just believe the verdict that the perosn has put upon themself.
So why is that attractive? We, as humans, are naturally attracetd to that which has been deemed valuable. We also tend to want to be a part of a laregr group.
We often follow the lead, join groups, and go along with the majority opinion - just to be part of the group.
High self-esteem can also create an ilulsion of attractiveness, or competence, even when it is not necessarily there. It is possible for us to be fooled.
After all, attractiveness is a subjective attirbute.
Self-esteem is the way that you believe abuot yourself, self-confidence is the way you believe about your abilities. Both can enhnace your ability to attract partners, pay-rises, friends, sales, success, achievement and lots more. I guess it would be valuable to learn how to increase your own self-esteem last motnh. Hey, if it gets Miss Piggy pulling at somenoes (some-frogs) heart strings, it can do the same for you.
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